7 – (SIBLINGS THROUGH)
THE
MILK TIE

As is stated in the Persian commentary to the book entitled Nikâya[1], sucking milk from the breast is called ridâ’. If a child below the age of two and a half sucks a mouthful of milk from one or more women outside of its family, these women will become the child’s milk-mothers (wet nurses), in the Madhhabs of Hanafî and Mâlikî. The mahram relatives of these women are now the child’s mahram relatives, too; that is, it is harâm for the cihld to enter into a marriage with any one of them. The milk mother’s own brother is the child’s milk uncle maternal. And the milk mother’s husband, who has caused milk formation in her body, is the child’s milk father. The man’s own brother is the child’s milk uncle paternal. However, the mahram relatives of the radî’, (i.e. the child that has been breastfed,) will not become mahram relatives for the milk mother and her husband. In the Madhhabs of Shâfi’î and Hanbalî, the child will not become a milk baby unless it is breastfed at five different times, being completely fed at each time. Imâm Abû Yûsuf and Imâm Muhammad and Imâm Shâfi’î ‘rahmatullâhi ta’âlâ ’alaihim ajma’în’ stated that if the child is more than two years old it will not become the milk child of the breastfeeder and her husband. A child that is breastfed after the age of two and a half will not become a milk child, according to the unanimity of the scholars of Hanafî Madhhab. It was stated (by those scholars) that it is not permissible to berastfeed a child that has reached that age because there is not a darûrat to do so. For, it is harâm to exploit a human limb if there is not a darûrat to do so. (Please see the fourth chapter of the fourth fascicle of Endless Bliss for the term ‘darûrat’.)

[It is stated in Durr-ul-mukhtâr: “Unless there is a darûrat, it is harâm to use the human organs. When it is harâm to use something, it is harâm as well to eat or drink it as a medicine.” Ibni ’Âbidîn explains this statement as follows: “Something that is harâm to use is also harâm to use as a medicine, regardless of whether it is something tâhir, i.e. clean, or najs, i.e. dirty, foul. A

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[1] Please see footnote [1] on the two hundred and twenty-second page of the thirteenth (January 2007) edition of the fourth fascicle of Endless Bliss.

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permission to use it as a medicine has been given only on the condition that it be known for certain that it will be good for the patient and that there be no other medicine. A Muslim who is not (one of those profound Islamic scholars called) mujtahid is called a muqallid. It is wâjib for muqallids to adapt their acts and deeds to the words of a mujtahid. He has to follow the mujtahid even if he does not know the proof-text and documents (whereon the mujtahid has based his ijtihâd.) As far as this translator the faqîr[1] is concerned, in case the patient is in danger of death and there is no other way out, it is permissible for a person, men and women alike, to be given blood. Muslim blood should be preferred. Shaikh Tâhir-uz-Zâwî, the grand Muftî of the Libyan government, states as follows in his fatwâ: “The Islamic religion commands hygiene and physical well-being. It is a humanitarian duty to give blood to invalids (who need it). For, in some cases blood transfusion is of vital importance. Blood transfusion does not cause milk tie. Nor does it cause an abrogation of nikâh (between a married couple). (Please see the twelfth chapter of the fifth fascicle of Endless Bliss for ‘nikâh’.) The aforesaid fatwâ is written in the April-1973 issue of the periodical that is entitled Hedy-ul-islâmî, and which is being published in Libya.] (For the word ‘fatwâ’, see the footnote on the hundred and forty-first page of the thirteenth-2007 edition of the fourth fascicle of Endless Bliss.)

It is eternally harâm for the milk child to marry its milk mother or milk father or their mother or mother or siblings or children or grandchildren of any generation. The same restriction would apply if those people were related to it by blood. The milk child’s offspring cannot marry its milk mother or milk father. The milk child’s wife cannot marry the (same) child’s milk father, and the milk child’s husband cannot marry the (same) milk child’s mother. A boy and a girl who have been breastfed by the same woman cannot marry each other or each other’s children or grandchildren, even if each had a different milk father or the years in which they were breastfed differ. The author ‘rahmatullâhi ta’âlâ ’alaih’ of the book entitled Durer states: “It is harâm for a male to marry his own sibling’s milk daughter or his milk sibling’s own daughter or his milk sibling’s milk daughter.” A man may marry the mother or sister of his milk sibling who was milked by his own mother. However, he cannot marry the mother of his sibling from the same

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[1]   Hadrat Hüseyn Hilmi bin Sa’îd Işık ‘quddisa sirruh’ means himself.

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father. In other words, a person can marry their own sibling’s milk sibling born from a different mother. Likewise, a man can marry the uterine sister of his brother from the same father. A man can marry his milk child’s sister. Yet he cannot marry his own child’s uterine sister. A man cannot marry his milk father’s other wives or his milk son’s wives. These two kinds of marriage are unsuitable also in cases where the father and the son in question are the man’s own father and son, respectively. The following couplet formulates the mahram kinships by way of milk tie:

The milk parents’ kinsfolk, collectively;
Milk child’s husband or wife, and progeny.

Application of an enema with a woman’s milk will not bind a child with a milk tie. Nor will a person be a milk child by eating food cooked with a woman’s milk. If the food eaten was not cooked, it will cause a milk tie when the amount of the milk is more than fifty percent. According to Imâm Shâfi’î ‘rahmatullâhi ta’âlâ ’alaih’, the person concerned will become a milk child even when the milk is less than fifty percent. If the woman’s milk is dropped into the child’s nostrils, the child will become a milk child. A dead woman’s milk, as well as milk of a girl over the age of nine, will cause a milk tie.

The event of having been suckled (by a certain woman) becomes a proven fact when the man who is to become married or who is married avows it insistently, like a declaration of ownership, or when two ’âdil men or one man and two women testify to it. The couple will become divorced by the decision of law court or by a bilateral agreement reached by the couple. If the two male witnesses are not ’âdil Muslims or if there have been only two women or one man and one woman as witnesses or if the only witness has been the ’âdil milk mother herself, and yet if the husband acknowledges it, the nikâh will become fâsid and the couple will become separated [Ibni Nujaym ‘rahmatullâhi ta’âlâ ’alaih’]. Please see the final part of the sixth chapter of the fourth fascicle of Endless Bliss!

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